Single Twin Cities: I’ll Kiss You In Your Fancy Car
In the past 3 weeks I’ve gone out with 6 different men, some of them multiple times. I recently joined a dating website because I’m bored. This seems like a good way to spend the end of a long MN winter.
Internet dating is like any other type of dating: you win some, you lose some. The odds are perhaps slightly better with online dating because you can filter out a lot of people who you probably won’t click with. However, I still find my fair share of weirdos & hopeless cases despite the fact I have my wits about me. The re-occuring theme with my recent internet dating activity has been the cars these guys drive. Three out of the 6 guys have driven fancy, luxury cars.
Making out in heated leather seats on a cold MN night is pretty hot. So far I’ve made out in a new Lexus, a BMW, and a Mercedes that costs more than I make in a year. I’m not materialistic, but I’m no stranger to nice things. Though, this is beginning to seem over the top.
When Mercedes Man came over for dinner on our 3rd date I was terrified he wouldn’t want to park his car on the slightly ghetto street I live on. He seemed a tad nervous until he looked out the window & remarked, “Oh! I can see my car from here.”
The thing is about this, the sterotype is that women want to date men who have nice cars. One need not look further than “AskMen.com” to get a depressing point of view (from the male side) of what women are looking for in a man:
“When it comes down to men and dating, most women will admit that they’re looking for a caring, romantic, sensitive, responsible, monogamous and good-looking man. But they forget to add a convertible sports car and other such materialistic things to their wish list.
There was a time when I believed that women did not care about the kind of car a man drives. But I quickly discovered how wrong I was. For those of you still wondering whether the car a man drives is a key factor in attracting women, the answer is a big YES.”
In my case this couldn’t be further from the truth. I went on internet dating sites just to find people to date, have some fun, and possibly find a connection. Ending up dating men with fancy cars was just a weird side effect of the internet dating experience that I neither sought out or much care about. The most interesting thing about it has been how dating guys with fancy cars makes me feel about myself and my own self admitted lack of fanciness. I found myself self conscious about the street I live on which has never bothered me before, just because the guy I was with had a Mercedes parked outside. Is this something I am really looking for in my life? Not really.
So yes. I will kiss you in your fancy car, but if you are looking for more than that from me we will have to see if you really need to be keeping that car after all.
This singles column is written anonymously by ladies about experiences on the Twin Cities dating scene. Questions and comments to Single Twin Cities can be submitted via email to single.twincites@gmail.com, on Twitter to @singletwincity, and on Facebook at http://www.facebook.com/SingleTwinCities .
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Hey Judy,
Nice post! I want to comment on your quote from AskMen.com. I do agree with the person quoted, as my experiences have led me to believe that most women are materialistic. I say most, because I have met a couple that could care less about what you drive. There are so few of those women, that’s why the stereotype is so strong.
Until last October, I drove a Hyundai Elantra, a car that has no sex appeal, proved by my string of first dates gone wrong, and the hideous teal color it had. Upon crashing it, I made it a point to get a car that was ‘sexier’. I went with an Acura TL, fully loaded (used… I’m not that rich, ha). After that, there was a certain air about who I was with, both friend or date, that thought of me in a more positive and sexier light. It’s amazing what heated leather seats do for someone.
To be fair, most everyone is materialistic. Women love presents, and so do men. There’s nothing wrong with that, but it would be nice, from a male perspective, if it wasn’t believed to be so high on the woman’s requirement list for a man.
Again, not all women are like this, but the perception out there says otherwise.
Good luck!
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