Single Twin Cities: Dude, I Don’t Want To Date You
Hello fearless readers. Today I am launching a new column on my blog called “Single Twin Cities”. What this will be is a column written anonymously by a few of my single friends who are on the dating scene in the Twin Cities. I realized that although I am many things and wear many different hats, one thing I am not is single and have not been for a long time. I am hoping that this column brings a new dimension to my blog and to my readers. I am also hoping for this column to be interactive and want you to be able to ask advice of the ladies who are writing it and share your dating stories with them. With that in mind a Twitter account with the handle @singletwincity has been started that the ladies are Tweeting on and a Facebook page called Single Twin Cities has also been started. If you wish to contact the ladies in a more discreet manner you can get them on their gmail account at single.twincites@gmail.com.
Without making you wait any longer, here dear readers is the first Single Twin Cites column written by one of the ladies, titled “Dude, I Don’t Want To Date You”:
Dudes. Seriously.
Sometimes we just don’t want to date you. It’s not about you but sometimes all a girl wants is some P in the V. Us ladies like it, too. You know, the casual stuff, the no strings attached version…you catch my drift, right? Then why is it so difficult to understand?
So, I’m occasional “seeing” this guy. By occasional, I like to think we see each other around major holidays. You know, “Oh hey, it’s Flag Day, wanna come over?” But if it’s your average Thursday, it’s a deal breaker. This guy is your typical hipster musician, busy as hell, obsessed with anything that can be tuned into a key of C, and can make any drunk lady swoon at 3am with his killer rendition of Your Body is a Wonderland. We all know this dude. And we were the perfect hook-up, or so I thought.
Here’s a recent text conversation between me and Musician Dude:
AND ACTION:
Wed 3:30pm:
Musician: Hey, we should get together.
Me (trying to be coy): We should?
Musician (obviously somewhat irritated by my devilish charm): Are you questioning? I mean if you want to hook up, then why not?
Me (after long sigh and an eye roll): oh, well, it’s just been awhile. I didn’t know if you were still interested.
Musician: I’m interested but I’m not interested in it going beyond sex
Me (after long text pause, while I was rolling on the floor laughing): Dude. I don’t want to date you.
AND SCENE.
Here’s the thing and I don’t mean to be harsh but this guy wasn’t even a contender to date me. It was casual and fun, no strings attached hook-ups. There were no dates, no Happy Hours, no dinners, no movies, nothing but 2am calls to meet up. So what’s the dramatic, “I’m interested but I’m not interested in it going beyond sex” line? Dude, you’re not a Cassanova and I’m not a Juliet who sits at home hoping and praying you’re going to ask me out on dates. I’ve already called a Spade a Spade, haven’t you?
And I thinks singer Ke$ha sums it nicely by saying, “Quit being a bitch with your chit-chat. Just show me where your dick’s at…”
And seriously….
Dude. I don’t want to date you.
This singles column is written anonymously by ladies about experiences on the Twin Cities dating scene. Questions and comments to Single Twin Cities can be submitted via email to single.twincites@gmail.com, on Twitter to @singletwincity, and on Facebook at http://www.facebook.com/SingleTwinCities .
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If was single, I’d get eaten alive in this “market.” And I don’t mean that in the positive sense. My dating years ended in 1991. Different sort of “recession” back then.
So…umm…guys? We’re dumb. Subtlety is not usually listed as one of our strengths. Just sayin’…
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Thanks for a great post and interesting comments. I found this post while searching for some music. Thanks for sharing this post.
Um, it sounds like he was just trying to be direct and not beat around the bush (excuse the pun). The single blogger is confused as to why this guy didn’t want to play the coy game. It’s because most men never want to play that game. She should stop being passive aggressive and vague and just be more like the guy — direct. He said exactly what he wanted. She did the opposite of this. Kudos to him. She’s probably going to be single for quite a while longer.
(I’m a woman, btw)
The classic dance of singles in the city. We still don’t get each other as a gender, and technology and new dating rules have added even more confusion into this difficult dance. I’m with ya sister. I don’t do hookups, but I totally get why and how this convo shook down. Being single is a great and scary place to be all at the same time.
Now days, finding a reliable partner is not easy. Then after you find one, keeping the flame in the relationship is another battle of its own. That is why we constantly need advice and information on how to keep our relationships happy. I came across this post ( Single Twin Cities: Dude, I Don’t Want To Date You | Just JudyJudyJudy) here, It has added to my knowledge and I thank you.
Bitch!!!Whaz up Judy, Judy, Judy? WTF?
Not much. Whaz up with you? Judy
I’ve searched the net for days now, tried the bar scene, and have been very unlucky so far. I’m always looking for dating advice that can put me on the right path! I’m happy i found your Single Twin Cities: Dude, I Don’t Want To Date You | Just JudyJudyJudy page! I feel it’s very refreshing to see some dating related information that i can take to the bank! I’m new to the dating world having only been with 6 people in my existence, it can be quite scary getting yourself out there.